Bondage And Sensation Play Session Recap From Sex Coach Nikki

Adding sensation play to love making sessions can increase the intensity of your time together. Bondage and blindfolding will increase a partner’s vulnerability and help them to be focused on the sensations in their body. Make sure to keep it fun and interesting using a variety of objects and types of touch.  If you’re interested in learning how to incorporate this just ask me, Sex Coach Nikki.  Also, feel free to check out www.NikkisLessons.com.

Below is the transcript in case you’d rather read it:)

 

here’s a recap from a session with a
friend
focused on sensation play basically
it was all focused on sensation play
and focused on the pleasure
side the spectrum so
we didn’t use any safe word nothing like
that
we just agreed that if there was
something happening that he didn’t love
that I would stop and
we would we would talk about it.
That never happened because I go very
slow
and I was able to just be in tune with
him
I definitely did stretch his boundaries so
that was
a huge pleasure so I’m going to
now show you some of the things I used and
let you see what you think so here we are
in my session room after my
session here I am
(laughing)
this is the bed we were on
and first thing I did was I
tied him up gentlyin my restraints and
we used the velcro straps
put him onto the edges the
bed
so just loosely bound
very comfortable spread eagle and I
had
the blindfold on him and
you know this is someone who normally
is entirely
in a highlevel of
stress very much ahead take charge
kind of person
so for him to give up the
control is big deal it’s really big
deal
and I felt honored that he would do it in
and it was great
it’s really good to take away the site
because it just made him that much more
vulnerable an outofcontrol
and more focused on sensations in his
body
so is it made it more intense so some
of the things I used
we started out soft with
the
feather duster here and then we went
on to this belt I ran this belt
over him over his body first soft then I took it and
I gave him little taps for the sensation of
the impact
and I took this it’s a little bit more
serious
belt stiffer and again I ran it over his
body
and then just with the tip did
some impact play so that was nice
name use this flogger know this flogger
very soft its suede and
when you just set down there’s no pain to
it
mean I did some brushing
then we got a little bit more
on the impact side of things with this
now this is actually some metal on the
and of this flogger and I did some brushing
slow and fast and then some little impact on his
nipples and genitals
its really intense when all that was
done
I got out the vibrator
and it’s not plugged in right now so you can’t hear the
vibration but between that and the lube
I got on top of him
and while he was working
to pleasure me I
was playing with him with a vibrator
and it was really nice because he was
totally you know outta control and
and basically experienced
an orgasm of a type that he’s never felt
before
because of his situation where he was
spread eagle
it was like he
couldn’t work he couldn’t make it happen
when that orgasm came it was
completely
the kind of orgasm where he was
letting go he couldn’t
clinch his muscles he couldn’t bear down
he can’t work harder to make it happen
and he actually
he came uncontrollably with a huge huge
amount
of ejaculate it was very hot
and I think because of the type to
orgasm it was he didn’t feel
you know spent and tired afterward and
actually
wasn’t done done and I was able to then
get the massage oil
and I’ve been using olive
oil and I’ve been using the lemon
also it’s very refreshing and smells good it
feels good
and I was able to just massage his
entire thighs groin
and we even played a little bit more
after that
yeah very nice
very nice and I just had to share with
you
alright well I hope you enjoy this and
let me know if you have any questions I’d
be happy to answer them

 

Oral And Anal Fun Part 3

Be courageous and have fun while leaning into the sensations of desire and arousal.

He had again come to the edge of climax.  Turning over to lay on his back he had his cock right in front of me.  I slowly slid my finger into his anus as I sunk my mouth down onto his dick.  Once my finger was deep inside his ass I massaged his prostate.  He gripped the base of his cock and slowly massaged up and down teasing me with the head, popping it in and out of my mouth.  With his other hand he took a fistful of hair and held my head steady.  He asked if he could cum in my face .  I nodded my head yes and moaned with excitement opening my mouth as wide as it would go and sticking my tongue all the way out.  I wanted to feel his hot cum on my tongue.  Shortly he started cumming.  I felt it on my finger first as his prostate got firm and his anus began to contract.  And then the cum started gushing out of his dick hitting my mouth, cheeks and chin.  I just kept licking and licking as he held my head still.

I was in total lust!  All I could think about was how aroused I was and how good his orgasm felt.  I reached down to play with my pussy.  He said now it was my turn.  I removed my corset and asked if he would play with my asshole.  I got him a glove and some lube.  I asked how he would like me – would he prefer to see titties or booty?  He chose booty so I got on the be on my knees and bent over with my ass in the air.

I reached down and played with my clit as he gently penetrated my asshole using more and more lube until he was smoothly finger fucking my asshole.  The more aroused I became the wider I spread my knees opening myself up to him more and more.  I had him turn his hand palm down and apply more pressure with his fingers inside me so my pussy was getting internal stimulation too.  It wasn’t long after that when I started cumming on his finger in my asshole, my whole body shaking and my pussy spasming against my hand!

So good!

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Then I asked them if they had ever considered anal sex.  They said no but they were open to it.  I had her flip over to her stomach and began massaging her glutes and sit bones.  I explained to him all that I was doing.  Using lots of lube I began to massage the crack of her ass.  Very slowly.  I told her before every change in stimulation I made.  I went from that to direct pressure onto her anus.  Using my 3 fingers together I placed them broadly against her anus and pressed into her body slowly increasing the pressure until it was firm checking with her all the time to make sure it was feeling good.  She enjoyed all the external stimulation.  I moved on – slowly – using one fingertip to massage her external sphincter.  Just dipping the tip of my finger into her anus I gently applied pressure – up, to the right, down, and to the left – checking at each point to see if she felt pain and also explaining to her boyfriend what I was doing.

Since everything was feeling good I sunk my finger in a bit deeper so I was penetrating her inner sphincter.  I repeated the pressure in the four different directions.  At this point she wasn’t feeling pleasure just pressure.  I explained that that was fine and that she would take some time to become used to this type of stimulation and to allow it to become erotic.

I slowly began sliding my finger in and out of her anus.  I just kept my finger straight and didn’t apply any pressure in any direction.  She was able to take my entire finger into her anus without discomfort of any kind.  I told them that they would most likely be having anal sex before they had vaginal sex since she wasn’t feeling pain in this area.  I gently bent my finger aiming my finger tip toward her pubic bone.  For the first time she felt the pleasure of pressure against her g-spot.  At the same time she felt like she may have to have a bowel movement.  I reassured her that there was no fecal matter in her rectum and it was just habit that when she felt pressure in this area it meant she had to go to the bathroom and that with practice that physical signal would change.

Her boyfriend wanted to try so I moved and he sat where I had been between her knees.  I coached him to go slower and slower.  He did and was so pleased when he was able to penetrate his girlfriend without bringing her pain.  He began sliding his finger in and out of her anus.  As he got more excited he began to speed up and she asked him to stop.  He did and I explained that the tissue is very sensitive and this is a new type of stimulation.  Over time he would be able to “finger fuck” her and even add a second finger.  I told him that the sign that she would be ready for anal sex is when he is able to smoothly slide tow fingers in and out of her anus without causing discomfort.

We mutually decided she felt done and it was his turn to work with me.

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I met with a couple who were visiting from out of town.  They had been looking online for a massage therapist and came across my site.  Seeing that in addition to offering massage I also offer sex coaching they set up an appointment with me.

They were very nervous.  Neither one of them had done anything like this before.  They were in their mid – 20s and were both virgins.  This was not by choice.  They had been in a committed relationship for several years but had several problems when it came time for penetrative sex.  This had caused their passion to wane and even though they had enjoyed oral sex in the past the fun had even left that because of their frustration.

When I arrived we discussed their situation and their histories.  They were both from a very conservative culture that didn’t allow for free sexual expression and experimentation.  They had never found someone to consult with.  They said they would be much more comfortable if I would be nude with them as they were very ashamed of all these issues and I offered it.  Seeing and being seen is the best way I’ve found to release shame.

I began with examining her.  She said she felt pain in her vagina.  I slowly examined from the outside starting with the abdomen and vulva asking all the time what her arousal level was.  When she reported that she was more than 50% aroused I began exploring her inner labia, clitoral hood and clitoris.  Still all pleasure – no pain.

While I was working with her the boyfriend asked if he was allowed to touch himself.  I said sure that it was normal and natural and this was an erotic situation.  He was surprised he wasn’t more physically aroused and I explained it was because even though this situation might be very close to the fantasies he held in his mind I was still keeping things fairly clinical.  I suggested he enjoy what was happening rather than judging it against what he thought should be happening.

Continuing my examination I began to slowly penetrate her vaginal opening (the entroitus).  Now the pain started.  Pinchy.  Burning.  Bad.  I got out some castor oil and applied it liberally to my finger and to her vulva.  Slowly – painfully slowly – I sunk my fingertip into her pussy.  The majority of the pain was strongest on the bottom.  I shifted the pressure to the top of the opening and that worked until I got to the second knuckle and then she felt pain there too.  I noticed that she would tense up periodically and I pointed out the signs to her boyfriend so he could tell when he need to slow down just by her non-verbal cues.

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Oral And Anal Fun Part 3

Be courageous and have fun while leaning into the sensations of desire and arousal.

He had again come to the edge of climax.  Turning over to lay on his back he had his cock right in front of me.  I slowly slid my finger into his anus as I sunk my mouth down onto his dick.  Once my finger was deep inside his ass I massaged his prostate.  He gripped the base of his cock and slowly massaged up and down teasing me with the head, popping it in and out of my mouth.  With his other hand he took a fistful of hair and held my head steady.  He asked if he could cum in my face .  I nodded my head yes and moaned with excitement opening my mouth as wide as it would go and sticking my tongue all the way out.  I wanted to feel his hot cum on my tongue.  Shortly he started cumming.  I felt it on my finger first as his prostate got firm and his anus began to contract.  And then the cum started gushing out of his dick hitting my mouth, cheeks and chin.  I just kept licking and licking as he held my head still.

I was in total lust!  All I could think about was how aroused I was and how good his orgasm felt.  I reached down to play with my pussy.  He said now it was my turn.  I removed my corset and asked if he would play with my asshole.  I got him a glove and some lube.  I asked how he would like me – would he prefer to see titties or booty?  He chose booty so I got on the be on my knees and bent over with my ass in the air.

I reached down and played with my clit as he gently penetrated my asshole using more and more lube until he was smoothly finger fucking my asshole.  The more aroused I became the wider I spread my knees opening myself up to him more and more.  I had him turn his hand palm down and apply more pressure with his fingers inside me so my pussy was getting internal stimulation too.  It wasn’t long after that when I started cumming on his finger in my asshole, my whole body shaking and my pussy spasming against my hand!

So good!

Oral And Anal Fun Part 2

Slow down and notice every detail of your intimate time together.  Do things like using unusual positions and lingerie will help bring your attention to the details and get the most arousal possible.

Once I caught my breath and came back into myself I asked if he’d like to see my lingerie.  Keeping my high heels on I turned my back to him and slowly pulled my dress up exposing my thigh high nylons, black lacy panties and black corset.  He embraced me from behind and pressed his hard dick against me.  With one arm around my waist and the other hand on my throat he turned and pulled my head gently back to kiss him long and deep.  I told him I was wet and asked if he would like to feel it.  He released his hold on my and I leaned forward over a table as he ran his finger along the edge of my panties against my ass cheek all the way to my pussy.  With one finger he gently grazed my vulva lips.  I was so aroused my wetness was there for him to feel.

Moving his finger up and down my lips he slowly applied more and more pressure and the tip of his finger slipped into my slit.  He found my swollen erect clit right away and began rubbing it, all the while I stayed bent over the table.  Once he pushed his finger inside my vagina I couldn’t hold myself still.  I began fucking back onto his finger.  After a few minutes of this I asked if he would like to move to the bed.

Once on the bed I began to massage his back.  He made it very difficult because he started playing with my pussy!  I massaged his butt and the backs of his thighs drawing my hands nearer and nearer to his asshole.  Then I gently spread his ass cheeks and ran my fingertip all round his anus for a minute before leaning over and using my tongue.  Starting out with light pressure I ran the tip of my tongue all around the rim of his asshole.  Flattening out my tongue I licked big long licks up his ass crack, just over his asshole at first but with each lick I moved down a little more until I was licking from the base of his hard cock up to his tailbone.  In the meantime he had lifted up from his stomach to be on his knees so he could stroke himself as I licked.

Oral And Anal Fun Part 1 Of 3

I’m sharing the following erotic writing to give you some ideas to explore, topics to discuss and possibly new activities to try.

I came into the room.  We started kissing and pressing our bodies together.  I sank to my knees in front of him, opened his pants and pulled down his underwear.  I wrapped my lips around the head of his dick, swirled my tongue first around his foreskin and then gently inside the foreskin around the glans.  He pulled the foreskin back as I began to move my head up and down taking him deeper inside my mouth with every move.  Eventually the head of his cock was hitting the back of my mouth and sometimes moving beyond that into my throat when I was able to make my forehead touch against his belly.  My gag reflex was triggered over and over making my mouth and throat spasm on the head of his dick.  The super slick spit came and all friction disappeared – there was only the sensations of my mouth running up and down his smooth hard shaft.

He slid his fingers through my hair and with a firm yet gentle grip on two big fistfuls of hair he began to control my head, alternately holding me still while he pumped his dick into my mouth, pulling my face against his body with his cock sunk all the way into my throat, and corkscrewing my head around so his cock would twirl around in my mouth.  As the arousal intensified he got harder and harder.  His breathing was ragged and he moaned his pleasure every few strokes.  Throughout this time I could feel my pussy getting wet and swollen.  As he was about to climax he pulled my mouth away from his cock and held it just out of reach of my mouth, watching as I strained to lick him with my mouth open and my tongue out.

 

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7 Things You Must Know About Anal And Sex Toy Cleanliness

There are some very specific things you can do to be clean and safe with anal play and using sex toys.

First, the anus:

1. Always use lots of soap and warm water especially in the anal area.
2. Using soap and your finger clean just inside the anus around the rim.
3. Disinfectant wipes are a quick way to clean in a hurry.
4. Perform an enema to take your cleanliness to the next level.
5. Use a barrier (a glove for finger play, a dental dam, condom cut open or glove cut open for oral play a.k.a. analingus) to prevent bacteria transfer.

Second, sex toys:

1. For sex toys use a toy cleaner for best results. You can also use rubbing alcohol.
2. For fastest clean up and to ensure you are not coming in contact with any old germs, use a condom over your toy.

Having sex – and anal sex in particular – can get very messy. That is part of the fun for most people! The naughty factor and the possibility of making a mess can create excitement. Some people do even like to play with excrement – it is called scat play or brown showers. For me that is a hard boundary (something I won’t do no matter what) since nothing about poo is sexy to me. What is sexy is the intense sensations I can give and receive by stimulating the anus just right.

I’ve addressed cleanliness in this article because that is often the first concern a person has who is considering exploring anal pleasure. We think of the scene from Zack and Miri Make a Porno where the porn actress is getting penetrated anally and loses control of her bowels. That is hype and was made up to be funny. While anal penetration can be messy I’ve never experienced or heard of anything near that happen in real life.

Whenever you are stimulating the anal area in addition to cleanliness always keep in mind how sensitive it is. Be very gentle until more is requested. Once the anus muscled have relaxed, more vigorous stimulation can be applied as long as there is sufficient lubricant. If you enjoy anal play and want to continuously increase the level of pleasure you can take consider using a butt plug. By using a butt plug for short periods on a regular basis you will be more able to enjoy anal play.

Many men ask me if their interest in anal play means they’re homosexual or bisexual. The answer is NO! There are several reasons anal play is pleasurable.

• Pressure in that area is naturally pleasurable… it’s important that we enjoy having bowel movements, right?
• The prostate can receive direct stimulation which can be much more intense.
• Some men like to be submissive and just receive the pleasure/abuse. In a long term relationship this can be a positive part of role play or power exchange.

Whether you are male or female, follow these suggestions and your anal experience will be a pleasurable one.

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